Therapy for People Pleasers

Overcome People Pleasing & Reclaim your Life

Private CBT Therapist & Recovering People Pleaser

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Therapy for People Pleasing

Do you feel overly responsible for other’s feelings? Find yourself sacrificing yourself to say yes to others? Always seem to be pulled into everyone else’s problems? Keep saying sorry all the time? Realise you’ve lost yourself in it all? If so you’re in the People Pleasers club.

I know what that’s like, because I’m a Recovering People Pleaser. Chronic People Pleasing is mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting. Over time, it can lead to burnout, anxiety, stress and resentment – affecting both your professional and personal life.

Therapy for People Pleasers is highly effective. I help clients all the time to find a new way forwards.

Time to Reclaim Your Life?

How Therapy Helps You Put Yourself First

Therapy for People pleasing can help you to:

Tackle other associated problems like imposter syndrome and perfectionism

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Recovering People Pleaser

I myself am a Recovering People pleaser. I’ve been there; I know what it’s like. In the past I’ve sacrificed myself at work, with friends, and financially; all due to the overwhelming need to look after other’s and not be an inconvenience.

I know how to Overcome People Pleasing, both because I’ve walked the walk, and because I’m a knowledgeable and experienced Private CBT Therapist.

Want to read my story? A recovering People Pleaser – A Therapist’s Story

Ready to Start Therapy for People Pleasers?

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What is a People pleasing?

People pleasing isn’t about being kind or accommodating. It’s way beyond that. It’s a destructive abandonment of your own needs at great personal cost. It is disproportionate efforts to meet others’ needs, to avoid confrontation at all costs, of feeling compelled to fix things for others, and being driven by guilt and fear. Guilt for not doing enough or being selfish, and fear of upsetting others, being an inconvenience or disappointing others. It’s apologising unnecessarily, overcompensating, not asking for help, and hiding your true feelings and thoughts.

Signs of people pleasing

If you recognise yourself in the following, private CBT Therapy could be a powerful step to change this.

Why am I a people pleaser?

People pleasing stems back to early life experiences and long held beliefs. Here are some examples of contributing factors:

Conditional love

If you grew up in a family where it felt like love was connected to something, e.g. being a ‘good’ child, achieving a ‘good’ mark at school, doing what made your parent happy. This can contribute to you misplacing your worth on what you do for others or on your achievements.

Early responsibility for others

If you were raised by immature parents, ones who failed to meet the role of being a parent due to their own shortfalls. This can lead to an inflated sense of everything being your responsibility. Whether that is how others feel or taking care of other’s needs, effectively you became the parent.

Conflict environment

If there was conflict in your household growing up. This typically leads to developing peace-keeper behaviours to maintain harmony at home, and avoid triggering arguments around you.

Empath nature

If you are a born empath and feel other’s emotions intensely. This can feed into adopting a helper role, trying to solve other’s pain and suffering, and trying to fix all their problems.

Fear of rejection

If you experienced early abandonment or childhood bullying. This can result in overcompensating for the fear of the same thing happening again.

Learned behaviour from family

If you were raised by people pleasers. This teaches us wrong messages about what a ‘good’ person looks like, teaches us a disproportionate forgiveness response, and excessive compassion towards others and their needs.

Understanding the history and development of people pleasing can be useful, but it’s also important to focus on how to change it. That’s where Private CBT Therapy comes in.

Ready to Overcome People pleasing?

Get structured support with self-paced Digital CBT Workbooks

A practical tools you can use in your own time. Find the workbook that fits you best.

People Pleasing at Work

People pleasing can have a huge impact on us at work. You might find yourself:
These patterns are a recipe for exhaustion and burnout. Business Therapy can help you to unlearn unhealthy behaviours, implement boundaries, and learn to advocate for your needs
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People pleasing as a Business Owner

I specialise in providing Therapy to Business Owners and Entrepreneurs. As a Business Owner, People pleasing has a direct impact on:
Want to find out more?

Overcome people pleasing with Private CBT Therapy

CBT for People Pleasing is highly effective. CBT therapy will help you to:

By changing the way you think and respond, you can break the cycle of people pleasing and live a more balanced and happier life.

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People Pleasing and Anxiety

You don’t do people pleasing because it’s something you really want to do. In fact, lots of people pleasers report resenting what they do for others at times, feeling annoyed at themselves when they say yes to something they know they don’t want to do. People pleasing is driven by wanting to avoid emotions you find difficult to tolerate – fear and guilt. But the cost of avoiding these emotions is often anxiety and stress.

People Pleaser Burnout

A prolonged period of doing too much, taking on everyone else’s problems, never asking for help, and never making time for your own needs is only going to lead one way – people pleasing burnout.

Want to read more about the burnout of people pleasing?

My unique approach

I offer my clients a unique combination of straight-talking delivered with empathy. I will be your encourager and cheerleader to recovery. From personal experience I know how impactful people pleasing can be. I will provide you with psychological understanding, teach you effective CBT Therapy strategies, and ensure that you’ve reclaimed your life before our therapy sessions end.

A people pleaser is not who you are. It’s a learnt behaviour that can be unlearnt.

It’s not permanent, it can be changed. Therapy for People Pleasers can help you to Reclaim your life.

Ready to Overcome People pleasing?

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Next steps

Discovery Call

If you have questions or want a quick chat, book your free 15-minute discovery phone call

Flexible therapy

You can book the number of sessions you want, when you want, and with the frequency you want. Want intensive sessions twice a week? No problem. Want monthly sessions longer term? No problem. You choose what you want. My live booking system works on a 1st come 1st served system. Online and Face-to-face sessions available in Middlewich.

Long-Term Confidence

By the end of therapy with me, you’ll have a practical and personalised blueprint to keep you on track and prevent future relapse.

Ready to Get Started?

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